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June Column : How the 10 Commandment Can Save Your Life (Part 1)

Posted by Shantae Sexy on June 1, 2013 at 9:55 PM Comments comments (0)

How the 10 Commandment Can Save Your Life

I’m certain that if you’ve ever attended a Sunday school class you’ve heard of them. Probably you just grew up in a God-fearing home that kept close instructions to the commandments. Perhaps for your own reasoning you learned and became accustomed to keeping true to The 10 Commandments.

Many people ask me how I do it. How do I manage to be who I am even having gone through what I have and will go through in life? Some people think I’m some type of person that I get by off their assumption that I’m doing “something” other than living by faith and The Ten Commandments.

Well, I decided to explain my reasons that I glorify the name of God and exalt his Holy name. I wanted to share with others what brings me comfort through it all…

So historically and biblically speaking the commandments were given to the Children of Israel when brought to the wilderness after being removed from Egypt, from bondage. It was a collection of and still is to be kept through out all the generations of God’s chosen.

Now let me clarify that nowadays there are many mixed generations, ethnically speaking as well as spiritually. So those who choose to live by God’s commandments and continue to teach his way to the generations are considered his children. Those who believe in Jesus Christ and that God shall come again are his children. Anyone who is preparing to enter the kingdom of heaven by utilizing faith and being just in this lifetime are his children. I could go on but I’d rather get to how The Ten Commandments can save your life.

Now I’m not just talking your physical life right here right now, I’m also referring to your eternal life. The life your soul has after being on earth. We all who have read the Holy Bible know that there are only two places to go; either heaven or hell. The only way to enter heaven is by faith and an undying love for Jesus Christ and The Almighty God.

I can make this quite frank. If you chose to not live by the commandments you are highly likely going to end up with Satan in hellfire and brimstone for an eternity where no one can save you. If you chose to follow the commandments and be upright in all your ways you are most likely to be in heaven, at peace with Jesus, God and all of the Saints (Prophets) forever.

So back then and even now God’s children were rebellious and preferred the ways of the world as opposed to God’s way. God didn’t approve and was utterly furious over seeing such madness and many times destroyed those who were against his ways. They are known as Anti-Christ. The reason God put rules in order was to help those who were good be able to survive in the midst of all the madness.

The madness consists of many of the things listed in The Ten Commandments that God says not to do. So let’s get into the first commandment according to King James Version.

Thou shalt have no other gods before me. - Notice that gods isn’t capitalized because they are obviously inferior gods that do exist. Many people here on earth refer to themselves as gods of who you should not choose their ways over God’s ways as it is the first mistake you could make against God.

Can you think of someone that you’ve heard refer to themselves a god and what activities they advocate in this world that you might be inclined to try?

If you were the Almighty God and was aware that there were other gods (but nowhere near as mighty as you) who other people preferred instead of God how would you feel and would you be okay with that?

Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth: Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me; And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments. – So after other gods comes another unworthy act you could do that would reserve you a place in hell such as making graven images or the makings of things that are of the earth or heavens. Well, we certainly can look around and see many of these things in the world. Statues, medallions, carvings and such things that replicate actual things that GOD created first. But most of all God doesn’t want you to serve them due to how jealous God gets seeing the people created by God go off to do things against God. However, if you can manage to keep God’s commandments; God will shew mercy unto you.

Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD thy God in vain; for the LORD will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain. – Even though God will show mercy for keeping the commandments, God is certain that anyone who takes the name of the LORD in vain will be guilty. Guilty isn’t good so taking God’s name in vain is against God’s ways.

Some people use God’s name to get what they want, when in their hearts they don’t truly love God. Some like to use God’s name in vain by going to churches and reciting a few scriptures but in their hearts and deeds lead sinful lives. People with bad intentions that say they are doing things for God use God’s name in vain.

Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days shalt thou labour, and do all thy work: But the seventh day is the sabbath of the LORD thy God: in it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates: For in six days the LORD made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day: wherefore the LORD blessed the sabbath day, and hallowed it. – This is one of the most forgotten and holiest commandments to keep the Sabbath, which is a day of rest and keeping for the LORD thy God. It is a commandment to still be hallowed in this day and for all the generations of those who plan to make it to heaven. God’s Holy Convocations are also a Sabbath which in Hebrew is a day of rest.

The Ten Commandments are part of the Old Testament of the Holy Bible. The OT contains the law or in the Hebrew, torah. Even in the Book of Revelations of the New Testament, which contains the new promise, it refers those who want to survive Armageddon to resort to The Ten Commandments.

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. – Honour is much like saying I want to be good in the eyes of my Mother and Father. So God commands that you do your best to be a good child so that God will bless you with many days on the earth.

Some people have evil parents or one(s) who would inflict harm on their lives by misguiding them or leading them to believe wrong things are right. God still wants you to do as a good child would do in life. Allow God to handle everything else so that you can have a long life to do God’s will.



Check July's Column for Part 2 of How the 10 Commandment Can Save Your Life

May Column : How To Have Good Relationship

Posted by Shantae Sexy on May 1, 2013 at 11:40 PM Comments comments (0)

How To Have Good Relationship

So many people have negative perspectives about relationships on
behalf of unfortunate experiences, however for anyone who wants to
have a great or at least good relationship; it is attainable.

First and foremost remember that if it’s your first time in
relationship or getting into a new one to start with a clean slate.
Meaning, not holding anything against your new mate because of things
you’ve heard, seen or experienced in dating. Do not walk blinded
either, do keep in mind that there are unruly people who do not care
for a good relationship. Also keep in mind that someone else’s
experience doesn’t have to be yours, especially if it was a bad one.

Second, you should be open and honest. It doesn’t mean to tell every
gory detail right away; however it is healthy to be clear and
realistic about your expectations and what can be expected of you.

For the third portion, remember that in a relationship there will be
great, good and not-so-good moments. Losing a family member, friend,
pet, job, or anything that can cause emotional turmoil is no reason to
turn against one another. It is a great time to express your concern
and care.

Experiencing challenges or hardships are all tests of faith, so it
isn’t wise to look and expect leaving a situation to be the best
decision. Except when abuse or neglect is involved of course, then
those do not count.

How to have a good relationship really amounts to what both partners
bring to the relationship. Family and friends who inwardly despise
your otherwise great relationship may be an issue if one allows
themselves to be controlled by the thoughts and feelings of others.

So the serious parts are covered, though there’s always more worth to
mention. Oh I mustn’t forget another few key factors, loyalty,
communication and understanding, which I’ll save for the end because
it’s really the best.

Have fun together; make sure that you and your mate are compatible.
You don’t have to like every single thing the same but there has to be
a mutual ground of willingness to do things together and enjoy every
moment of it. Create memories together, because if not you’ll run out
of things to talk about and end up talking too much about other people
and their business!

Don’t compare or share! Yes let your relationship be yours, everything
is not everyone else’s business, so don’t feel obliged to tell all the
details of your romantic getaway. Keep it blunt and basic by saying,
“We had a great time, really looking forward to going again.” Or keep
it briefer than that. “It was nice, thanks for asking. How’s
everything with you?” Change it up on a nose bucket. I mean if you
wanted all of that personal stuff available you could record and share
it, right?

Also keep in mind that some people fabricate of how “wonderful’ their
relationship is by way of comparison, so again don’t be compelled to
rate yours vs. theirs.


When it comes to intimacy be fair, don’t harbor your sexual desires
with your mate. Enjoy one another and appreciate your oneness. Talk
about what you do and do not want to do. Accept having someone to
explore your sexuality with.

There are many ways to have a good relationship, but loyalty,
communication and understanding go hand-in-hand. Being loyal is more
than telling people that you are in a relationship; it is showing that
you are only interested in your mate. It is being there for your mate
as best as possible and being reliable to one another.

Communication helps in many ways and helps to build and clarify the
loyalty of the relationship. Talk about things that concern you, make
you happy or just topics that can lead to more conversation together.
Use the technology that is available to you and allow yourself to
accept that words and actions are the equivalent to complete
communication.

Interpreting how one feels or what one means and relaying it to how
you feel is what understanding is all about. Expression and perception
of another’s expression is what understanding is. So remember to
express yourself and be clear, so that lines are not crossed.



So in closing be for one another and make the best of what you have.
That is how to have a good relationship.

March Column - 5 Signs Of A Cheater

Posted by Shantae Sexy on March 1, 2013 at 9:15 PM Comments comments (0)



  1. Secretive

  2. Wanderer

  3. Deceptive

  4. Excuses

  5. Unexplainable Patterns/Behaviors


So the topics of coverage lately has been focused on relationships, love life and in general communication. This particular column is designed to expose the initial warning, red flag signs of a cheater.


Many relationships end because someone cheats. Whether they assume their mate is the one and tries to repay them or if they just want to be first, so not to feel like the sucker in the end.


Cheating leads to many problems such as broken homes, murder, suicide, rape, lying, abuse, sexually transmitted disease/infection, unwanted childbirth/pregnancy,changes in health and decisions for life, as well as many other unspoken of downfalls.


Did You Even Know? For the record, cheating is a form of domestic abuse.


What brings a cheater to cheat? Well many cheaters believe they have valid excuses for their decisions, while others do it for fun or because they can easily get away with it. Cheaters tend to cheat with many things in life, even how to survive on a daily basis. Which may be the reason people cheat in the first place. They’ve experienced something negative in life and feel that in order to not go through it in the future, they'd rather try to outsmart the situation at hand.


People who cheat are unhappy with their life and the choices from some point in life that they've made. In most cases, the person being cheated on hasn't caused the cheater to do so. It's mainly from a cheater's own thoughts of what could hopefully make them happy and also stems from greed; wanting to have everything that seems to be available to that person.


Cheaters however always get cheated on and the more they cheat in retrospect, the more they'll get cheated on in life. Unfortunately, you don't have to BE a cheater to get cheated on, sometimes cheaters use others who are likely NOT to cheat as practice. It builds their esteem to further cheat and they usually get the benefits of a real relationship in the meanwhile. The only bad part is, it excites the cheater to cheat even more, with their mind focusing in on how to outsmart the situation to avoid certain consequences and outcomes the next time around.


Though cheaters have plenteous reasons to do the things they do and though most find their reasons to be valid, there are 5 distinctive signs that can alert you that someone is a "cheater".


In no way is this article accusing or predicting anyone's personal life experience. The sole purpose is to raise awareness so you can make good decisions about what relationship is best for you.


If you or someone you know is in a situation where a mate/partner Is cheating, just remember that you don't deserve to be mistreated by anyone for any reason.





    Secretive

So, someone's being secretive... Is it they're ashamed to be with you? You're not allowed to be in places they happen to be? Or are you ready to consider some harsh reality? Your mate is cheating! Yes, there are some common situations of places a mate may not want their their mate to go to with them (ie. Work,school, etc.) , but what about if they choose to not tell you where they're going and what they really plan to be doing? A secretive partner is the top hint of a cheater, someone who's not fully committed to you. Remember a secret is something being held back because it could alter or ruin a situation.


If you come into such a situation you deserve to clarify any unsurities. Ask what is on your mind. If no answer, no matter who the situation involves, you deserve to know the truth. Even if it isn't that your mate is cheating you shouldn't ever be left in the dark about anything you and your partner have going on in life.


It's unhealthy to keep secrets, one can be led to create answers to their own thoughts, which may not be beneficial . Sometimes people go to who they think is a reliable source, who always will steer that persons mind in their own best interest. If you've had no problems talking about things in times past but suddenly there are secrets, there is someone else or others who your mate would hate to see in the same vicinity at once. Don't think for a second it's a pleasant surprise. Surprises always have a pleasant and happy vibe to it.


Now some may say “What if they know their ex may be at a usual hangout and don't want no problems to start up?” Get real! An “ex” is that for a reason and if your mate isn't ready to go public with a new relationship, then best believe there's more to it than what you'd like to believe.


    Wanderer


Here is one that I actually took from one of my favorite movies, Two Can Play That Game. It's the wanderer. I admit, before seeing this movie I didn’t ever consider looking as a sign of a cheater. However, in the movie a particular scene plays out, how it looks when a cheating man is overdoing the whole “looking” thing. Which made me see that it's certainly a cheating thing to do. I haven't had that experience but nowadays the Internet is flooded with new ways for men and women to overlook,if you know what I mean. Now it actually is a lot easier to tell who is a wanderer and more likely to be found a cheater in a relationship. Nowadays even females do this.


It's easy if you see your mate online “liking” many photos especially of people of their sexual preference, you can tell. Even the singles you can tell that they are racking up on who they'd like to add to their players list by being outrageous with Likes and Commentations”.


Now a wanderer is one who is leisurely admiring other possible opportunities for intimacy. Think about it, unless you're swingers, in an open relationship or just not having a good relationship at all and are openly searching a new mate, a normal person would be totally offended seeing their mate wander into a trance over another or others. A person considering or actually pursuing others while in a relationship is a wanderer and will not stop. This person is sizing up their next chance to cheat on you and it would only be a matter of time.


So if you're in public together and your mate can't help but to be totally distracted by the same or opposite sex , do accept that if you weren't around, that the possibilities are endless.



    Deceptive

Deception, the art of deceiving and one of the biggest characteristics of a cheater. Remember not all cheaters are proud to cheat in life. So they prefer to deceive you, by filling you up with thoughts of the type of person they are and what they have in life. They may lie about their material possessions, how they live and what they are accomplishing in life. Anything to get you to think they are incapable of cheating ,to loop you into what they do to you and others. If your mate has deceptive behavioral patterns they most likely are covering up and hiding who and how they really are. Even if you're in public and your mate tries to deceive a person in general, stop and accept that if they see it fit to deceive another for any reason, they may also see is as nothing to do the same towards you as well.



    Excuses


Excuses, excuses, excuses... People make excuses but for what? A full grown adult should be able to take full accountability for their actions and decisions. Well not cheaters, a typical cheater makes excuses when they're trying to cover their true intent to cheat. What person in their right mind would stay with someone they are completely certain is cheating on them? Think about it, the typical beginning of a cheating relationship...When your mate pursued you they wanted all of your time and give as much of their time as possible . Now suddenly they're too busy for anything that involves you.


So what more proof do you need? Yes, we live in a busy world but seriously, no one is too busy to respond and a person who is still interested in you will always find a way to make time. It's called sacrificing and all real committed relationships require that both sacrifice for one another. People take breaks to eat, chat with friends and even to use the restroom. So if all you get are excuses, you may be better off excusing yourself from that relationship.


An excuse is just an easy way out. Don't sit around for someone that wants out of a relationship and who's obviously not waiting or thinking about you! Be the stronger one, avoid a big mess and get out of that pretend relationship.


Now sometimes the excuse may actually make some sense, but don't be a fool. Sometimes a cheater is smart enough to cheat with someone who knows enough about you or cheating who gladly helps hand out excuses . This person would even go so far as to find out ways to get money, material and other things from you through your mate or partner. Yes indeedy, it's a crazy world out there.



    Unexplainable Patterns/Behaviors


Lastly, the unexplainable behavioral patterns, such as going away, unable to be reached, unwilling to respond, excuses all for no apparent reason. Well apparently, your mate is hiding out somewhere else with someone else. Arguments about nothing, not the ones that start because of things that are actually taking place and sparks debate... Mainly the things like, “Why are you calling me, I’m busy...” things along that line and not fully communicating to avoid a dispute. The bottom and top line is if it doesn't make sense, if it doesn't add up, you need to find out what's going on, because more than likely your mate is with someone else or highly considering it.

Think about it, if there are problems , you're “in” a relationship, talking things out together is part of a healthy relationship. So do not make excuses for the unexplainables, you have to accept the proof.



So there you have it! Sometimes seeing it laid out in plain sight helps brings yourself to terms with what's going on. Too many people want love and accept this as a relationship. If your mate doesn't include you in their happiness it's because you're not really part of their happiness.


Remember to love yourself first by making sure you do not allow a person to treat you how you wouldn't want to be treated. If your partner doesn't see it as something they need to do then take it as a clear sign.


Here's a Biblical perspective about how Men and Women need to be towards one another. How a woman needs to accept as treatment from a Man and how a Man has to treat a Woman. If you get anything other than that it is a fair warning.



Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.